As International Men's Day gains momentum every year (November 19th), different themes become the point of focus in different countries and I think that's such a great thing; to celebrate our diversity of thought and values and what affects us the most. This year, in the midst of all the anti-male rhetoric we hear thrown … Continue reading International Men’s Day 2021: Creating safe spaces for men
In the last post, I decided to write a little about gamma bias. A theory that I have recently been reading about and how it seems to impact the anti-male agenda which I believe to be very real. Part one of this series deals with the minimization of female perpetrators. It seems to me that … Continue reading A personal take on Gamma bias and the anti-male agenda. Part 2: Minimization of female privilege and maximization of male privilege.
I was reading about Gamma bias theory (Seager & Barry, 2019) recently as I continue to grapple with understanding issues and challenges surrounding men today. Even for an average guy like myself, it was pretty intriguing to me to see something that I instinctively felt was true, laid our so clearly. A lot of times … Continue reading A personal take on Gamma bias and the anti-male agenda. Part 1: Minimization of female perpetrators and maximization of male perpetrators.
Today, November 19th is international men's day. And quite frankly, I'm so grateful that there is a day dedicated to men and the contributions they make to society. A day to celebrate masculinity at times when it is demonized as toxic. Many times we as a society take for granted the little things that men … Continue reading Happy International Men’s Day 2020
I’ve been searching for a definition of masculinity. It seems that everywhere you turn someone has a problem with men and masculinity. Its either men are not sensitive, men don’t make enough money, they don’t care, men are dogs, dishonest, toxic, sexist, under-performing, potential rapists etc. All while being told it’s a man’s world. Masculinity … Continue reading In search of a definition of masculinity
Recently, I’ve been thinking about the rite of passage tradition and how it affects us as men and I wanted to share some of my own views. In many civilizations around the world, man was required to exhibit his mental toughness and those timeless masculine traits such as courage, self-reliance and valor to earn his … Continue reading Does the “rite of passage” tradition still have a place in a man’s life today?
In some of my hardest life moments, I’ve resorted to both constructive and destructive coping mechanisms. But while pin-balling back and forth from the anesthetics of mild alcohol use and sexual gratification to attempted spiritual awakening one thing remained crystal clear; the more I expressed myself while keeping honesty as my main goal, the lighter … Continue reading Guys who Journal: Much more than writer’s block to contend with
In the part 1 of this blog, I touched on what I call a state of toxic peace. A son who was emotionally dominated by the mother from a tender age until his resolve for independence is comprehensively broken and he submits powerlessly to her demands. He finds a sense of peace floating in a … Continue reading The emotionally dominated son part 2: A chained reaction
Many times, we tend to focus on the father son relationship and usually, the ills of a man are blamed on the relationship with his estranged father. But I think the mother son relationship is also critical and understated. So I’ve decided to express my thoughts on it; more specifically, the effect that a controlling, … Continue reading The emotionally dominated son part 1: Achieving a state of toxic peace